“Many people forget that ABUNDANCE goes beyond just the MONEY… Abundance includes abundant health, wisdom, peace, inspiration, joy and RELATIONSHIPS.

When we focus on CHASING THE MONEY, we neglect the other areas of our lives and we focus on what’s MISSING and guess what? We intensify the lack of money instead.

Learn the Art of PIVOTING and start to ATTRACT and KEEP more ABUNDANCE in
your life.

It’s time you ALLOW money to flow to you. That’s what it wants to do but you’re getting in the way!”

- Emma Tiebens – Relational Marketer, Speaker, Author, Marketing Consultant

Discover and Learn the “Art of Pivoting” – just one of the highlights at my “HardSell2HeartSell” LIVE Breakthrough Training Experience -http://www.HardSell2HeartSell.com/ June 15, 2013 – Balboa Bay Club and Resort – Newport Beach, CA

These past few months were a whirlwind of wonderful activities for me.  When I started embracing my “Feel Good”, Gratitude and Appreciation philosophies, I have felt a surge of power, inspiration and joy in all areas of my life.

For this past week however, I felt a sense of angst about a few things that no matter what I DO or choose to BE, it lingered for a while though it eventually shifted.  There was a heavy feeling on my chest and a stirring in my stomach that I simply couldn’t whisk away.  Many times in the past, this feeling has been a launch pad for bigger and greater things and at times, they are simply reminders of something that requires attention.

Yesterday’s event about the Boston Marathon Explosion has also left me feeling overwhelmed, sad, angry, concerned, disheartened… I feel so many different emotions all at once and they are not necessarily the most positive ones either.  I think of the people who have been directly and indirectly affected by this heinous act and I continue to send them love, prayers and positive intentions.  I have wonderful memories of Boston as a young Flight Attendant many years ago.  I will always have a special place in my heart for Faneuil Hall, Filene’s Basement, Newbury Street, Boston Commons Park, the Cheers Pub and Boston Park Plaza Hotel to name a few.

I figured, if I was feeling this way, some of my family, friends, subscribers, clients and social media circle must be feeling something similar.

I am getting ready to leave for a huge event in Baltimore, MD tomorrow and I am tying up loose ends right now but I awoke this morning with a sense of ambivalence.  The feeling was quite intense, palpable  and disconcerting that the thought of canceling my trip crossed my mind.

I did what I would normally do, when I feel as though I’m in a quandary – I chose to BE STILL and started to B-R-E-A-T-H-E…

Do you ever feel OVERSTIMULATED at times – so much so that sounds, visuals and just the presence of people around you makes you so hypersensitive that you
just want to crawl into a hole or lock yourself up in a room?

I know I do and if you’re reading this, chances are that you do to.

And if you or you know of someone who is going through this, rest assured that there is nothing wrong with you or them.  In fact, the good news about this is that most of the time, it is temporary and it is indeed possible that this is a pivotal moment signifying an upcoming event that will raise your bar.

In the book “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles, he talked about “Living A Certain Way”.  This is a strategy that I live by and has helped me “quantum leap” in so many ways.  I will be sharing more about this in the next few weeks, in preparation for my live event on June 15, called “Hard Sell To Heart Sell”.

For now, I would love to leave you with this golden reminder and my proven strategies that has enabled me to get past the overwhelm as quickly as possible.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed to a point of retreating, it simply means that you have not been specific on how you want your perfect live to be.  Sometimes it’s because you don’t believe it’s attainable or you just don’t know where to start and how to even conjure up ideas on how it’s possible for you do desire and live your perfect life.

I have already taken some time in visualizing and writing down my 15-page “Living A Certain Way” document. I wrote my first draft 2 years ago and it’s a live document which continue to evolve.

When I am feeling a state of overwhelm, distraction and over-stimulation I already understand that it’s the Spirit’s way of reminding me that I am veering away from the truth about who I really am and the absolute power that make up who I truly am.  During those moments, I tend to forget that within me – within us -  lies the very power that created the universe!

So as you experience what I just described in the beginning of this article, I’m sharing with you exactly what I do and I trust that you will find inspiration from this too:

1)  Give yourself some grace that something is quite out of place.  You don’t necessarily need to diffuse it as something scary or will invite you to spiral into that forbidden place of depression.  Acknowledge it for what it is but don’t get too caught up with it that you start inviting more negative thoughts into it. Just say something like: “Okay, I am having one of those rare times that I am not feeling my best and that’s okay, because this is temporary and it’s telling me something that I am probably resisting that needs to be addressed.  I will deal with this as soon as I can, but for now, I am choosing to focus on what is working.”

2) Go ahead, crawl into the hole – in my case, I lay down on the couch or crawl in bed – yes, even in the middle of the day, lay still and take deep slow breaths.   Or go take a nap if you feel like it! ( If you’re at the office you can go to your rest area during a break and for work at home Parentpreneurs, just don’t’ forget to set the timer if you have to pick up your children from school! ;)

3) As you start breathing in and breathing out, control your breathing by taking really deep slow breaths and doing long extended exhales.  As you do breathe, focus on things that you’re able to appreciate now and focus on the powerful energy that created  you – God and the universal force  that is a huge part of you.  In the book “The Science of Getting Rich” it’s referred to as the “Formless Substance” -  Focus on the  things you can appreciate NOW and not just those you would like to appreciate.

4) When thoughts that are sad, worrying and depressing present themselves, continue breathing and do your best to find something to appreciate and focus on that, even if it’s as simple as how great the sheets feel on your skin, how wonderful it is to be able to find time to relax and breathe, how you appreciate those who truly love you, the gifts you do have, your talents, your social media friends who empower and encourage, the yummy lunch you had.

5) As you begin to feel good, continue to bring in more good thoughts you can appreciate. From that state, you can now bring it your visual of your ideal day, your ideal work, your ideal clients, your ideal home, your ideal relationships – your idea life!

6)Within 10-15 minutes will notice that your feeling will be much different from when you started the process. From that feeling good place you will have better ideas present themselves to you.  Listen to those ideas, write them down and as you focus on those ideas, more positive thoughts and ideas will come and act upon them.  Whether the idea is to just write on your journal or post a positive insight in social media or call a friend who comes to mind.

7) Celebrate the powerful experience you just gave yourself! Now, you know that next time you experience an overwhelming feeling does come, you already know what it takes to pivot and shift your way out of it.

Next time you do feel overstimulated, overwhelmed and distracted, go through these 7 steps and please let me know how this has helped you by leaving a comment here.  Also please Like or Share this as you just never know who could use these strategies right this moment.

Cheering You On!

Emma

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Have you ever experienced days when you were in the flow and you felt as if wisdom was flowing in and out so effortlessly?  A time when you actually feel as though everything is possible and you are indeed unstoppable?  Today was one of those days for me.  I started my day in prayer and meditation like I always do, but this morning, I consciously chose to stay inspired and in the creative mode, in bed.

Do you ever feel like your work environment gets stale and you need to find another inspired and quiet place?  Well, for me, aside from our local library or my formal dining room and living room downstairs, or the private club I am a member of, sometimes just staying in bed with the intention of really focusing on that inspired action mode, gets the job done!

I know, some of my friends say “never bring work into the bedroom” and I totally agree with that. There is a time and place for everything! It’s just that in those very rare occasions when you make an exception, you tend to value the space and rarity of the opportunity that you tend to be more productive.  There have been times when I was absolutely inspired to create a program or an information product that I would purposely stay at a hotel for 2-3 days to get things done that would have normally taken me months to create!

True inspired and creative moments are rare and must be valued and cherished.  I make it a point to schedule them on my calendar and it’s something I look forward to.  If you haven’t tried it, I suggest you do.  You can do it for as little as 2 hours or the entire day if you choose!  I guarantee you, this will be time well spent.  Just let your family members know before hand and let them know what you’re doing.  They will be inspired by your commitment to taking inspired action.

Our son Garrett knows when I’m working from my bed… my 3-wick candle is lit up and the room is very peaceful and fragrant. Most of the time, he even crawls up next to me with his book and he reads until he falls asleep for a nap.  I then get to look at his sleeping face from time to time and it adds to my inspiration.  It’s one of life’s most precious moments.

I would LOVE for you to try this and let me know how much you get done.  It might get uncomfortable in the beginning and you might be tempted to take a nap in between.  That’s okay… just know that when you wake up, you’ll feel refreshed and inspired.

Cheering  You On!

Emma

Many of my clients, friends and peers know me as an implementer.  While I appreciate moments of relaxation, I have always felt better about always taking action whether it’s learning, serving and socializing.  And even while I’m relaxing, I am always DO-ing something – either reading, cooking, writing, working-out (yes, that’s relaxing for me)  or scrolling on Facebook news feed from my iPhone.  The only time I truly relax is when I nap, or when I go have my nails done or go to the spa.

For the past 3 years, I have been diligently immersed in growing my business.  I practically wore all the “hats” – I was my own Research and Development Team, PR Team, Marketing Team, Operations Team and Customer Service Team.  To keep me sane, I read tons of books on technology, marketing, mindset, leadership and personal and spiritual development; invested in Mentors and  attended countless of seminars, conferences and workshops and have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars.

While everything that I learned was priceless and are responsible for who I have become, I must say that it was a very long and arduous process where many, many times, I really felt like GIVING-UP, but these have kept me going:

1)  My desire to be a role model for our son.

2) The pursuit that I was called for something more — for a greater purpose.

3) My quest for financial freedom to live a life of choices and abundance.

4) My belief that “my message matters”.

5) To help Parentpreneurs’ and Solopreneurs families to value and respect each other so they can stay together.

6) Experiencing how it is to have Impact and Influence in my life.

7) Leave a legacy of significance and relevance.

8) Consistently provide INSPIRATION, MOTIVATION and HOPE to those who seek them.

9) Surround myself with an incredible “Circle of Influence” of people who are heart centered and have a common goal to better their lives and other people’s lives.

10) To continue to overcome self-limiting doubts and fears and be the best version of myself as my tribute to God whose Spirit lives within me.

While my reasons are all consequential and relevant, I realized that I have forgotten this critical component…

I MUST FEEL GOOD FIRST and know how to FEEL GOOD NOW.

I have started to realize that I have been working so diligently and so seriously that I have neglected a huge part of me — I have neglected my spirit – the part of me which truly gives me unadulterated JOY;  that part of me which is the SEAT OF TRUTH and the place where INSPIRATION and CREATIVITY flows.

When I pray and meditate everyday I seek wisdom and the feeling of oneness with the veritable force which created the universe which lie deep within us.  Then, as I go about my day, I tend to lose sight of that and I forget who I truly am.

I am now learning that my priority is TO FEEL GOOD FIRST, because when I come from that place, my “Inspired Action” or “Inspired To-Do” List comes from a place of ease and effortlessness and not from lack or desperation of getting things done from a desired outcome.

I have done the “doing of it” and will continue to do so but this time, I will know to listen to me first, rather than from pleasing others.

There’s a gigantic lesson here that is unfolding as we speak and will be sharing that more as they are revealed…

Until we connect…

Cheering You On!

Emma

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HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY!!! Did you know that on October 4, 1789, a crowd of women demanding bread for their families gathered other discontented Parisians, including some men, and marched toward Versailles, arriving soaking wet from the rain? They demanded to see “the Baker,” “the Baker’s wife,” and “the Baker’s boy”. The King agreed to meet with some of the women and promised to distribute all the bread in Versailles to the crowd. The arrival of the National Guard on the scene determined to take the King back to Paris complicated things for the King.

Some of the crowd got into the Queen’s quarters and Marie Antoinette barely escaped by way of a secret passage (still partly intact at the Palace at Versailles) to the King’s room. He agreed to address the people from his balcony. “My friends,” he said, “I will go to Paris with my wife and my children.” It was a fatal mistake. It was the last time the King saw Versailles…. ( Source: http://www.historywiz.com/womensmarch.htm )

I remain in awe of women! Not because I am a woman, but because I have been in the company of so many of you who are gentle, romanticists, thinkers, nurturers, lovers, care takers, yet when it comes to our dreams, families, commitment and relationships, we are steadfast action takers and courageous movement makers who are ready to fight for what’s worth fighting for.

So if you’re a woman who is reading this (and of course the men who love, honor and support us), here’s a great big VIRTUAL HUG for you and this beautiful reminder:

“You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.” ― Brigham Young

Cheering You On!

Emma